A few years ago, I heard someone talking about a woman she met who had the phrase “It’s nice to be important, but it’s more important to be nice” framed on the wall in her house. Ever since then, I kept in mind that I’d like to have the same thing in my own home, and finally got around to it. I love DIY projects (on a small scale…) and find it so fulfilling to make simple, budget-friendly things that give our home a creative and joyful “vibe”. With two little daughters, I’ll be hanging up the above picture frame in their room to remind them in a colorful, cheerful way to always treat each other with love. But there’s something about this saying that isn’t quite enough on it’s own…
Believe it or not, women are twice as likely to struggle with anxiety and depression than men. I think at least part of that is due to how often we prioritize being “nice” above all else, leading us to ignore the things deeply hurting us. More than anything, I’m looking forward to encouraging each daughter to think of their sister’s feelings, to share, to empathize, and to always look out for opportunities to do acts of kindness for others. But I think it is unbelievably important that I also teach them how to do the hard things that women often worry are “not so nice” – whether it’s sharing their honest feelings with a friend when they’ve been hurt, asking for recognition when it was deserved but unfairly given to someone else, or resolving to remain private about something when asked an intrusive question. I hope to teach my girls from a young age how to confront uncomfortable situations with courage, even at the risk of feeling, and being perceived, as not very nice. As much as we want to instantly please others, there are values that are more important than a superficial feeling of peace and pleasantness. I truly believe that understanding the importance of personal boundaries, privacy, and standing up for one’s self leads to the highest forms of kindness, because only then can we deeply consider and respect the boundaries, privacy, and dignity of others. So while I want my daughters to always treat each other nicely, I also hope that they do so with a deeper, more meaningful definition of the word in mind.
Here's what you'll need for the project:
- A hole puncher
- Several pieces of colorful/decorated paper with the color scheme you want. I got mine at Michaels. Some had pretty patterns and some were just solid colors
- A picture frame of choice
- Glue. I used a glue stick, but it’s not perfect (it left a few light marks on the paper). It may be better to use a tiny dot of liquid glue on each hole-punched piece of paper
- Printed page with the font, color and quote of your choice. I printed mine at Office Max on cardstock paper for under a dollar. I used the font called "Petite Formal Script" and downloaded it for free here
Now all you have to do is hole punch the colored papers and glue the pieces onto the frame in the design that you like (mine is inspired by the way I designed the the blog website). As you can see, I started with brighter colors at the top, and gradually lightened up as I moved down.
My sister-in-law came to my apartment to drop something off when I was taking pictures of the project. I joked about the chaos in the home and the dirty diaper on my couch next to the "photoshoot", and she said, "Put that in the blog!" So here it is - what it really looks like at the Lipstick & Brisket studio (my living room!)
L & B will be taking a break for a few weeks for Passover. Have a wonderful holiday!